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If she looks at you again, go for it

As told by Ajahn Brahm in Bringing Up Children | Ajahn Brahm | 09-12-2011

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The story — as told by Ajahn Brahm (verbatim captions)

asking for advice about how to find a girlfriend I remember the advice he said this is the sort of guy he was he said look if a girl looks at you once you don't know but if she looks at you again she likes you go for it and that's what my father told me when I was about 14

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A reflection (in the spirit of Ajahn Brahm's talk)

At fourteen, Ajahn Brahm asked his father how to get a girlfriend. If she looks at you once, you can't tell; if she looks again, she likes you, so go for it. He loved his dad for meeting him where he was. Understand young people's pressures before scolding. Make home a place where they feel accepted.

In brief (our summary)

At about fourteen he asked his father how to find a girlfriend. Dad said: if a girl looks at you once you don't know; if she looks at you again she likes you — go for it.

Teaching point

A loving parent meets the child where their interest actually is.

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Source & credit

Told by Ajahn Brahm in Bringing Up Children | Ajahn Brahm | 09-12-2011 · 2011-12-10 · ▶ watch from 51:01 to 51:26 · Buddhist Society of Western Australia

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