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“You're a much better mum when you come home”

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The story — as told by Ajahn Brahm (verbatim captions)

Many times when I've been teaching meditation, especially down at Armadale, I don't know why this happens always in Armadale group. In Armadale group, sometimes after the meditation, talking to people afterwards, and very often people say, "You know, this evening, I never wanted to come." "It's Tuesday evening, I've been at work, and I'm tired, and I told my kids I'm not going this evening, and my daughter said, 'Mommy, you must go to meditation.' I said, 'I don't feel like it darling, I'm tired.' 'Mommy, you must go to meditation!' 'No, not this evening.' 'Mommy, go to meditation!!' 'Why darling?' 'Because you're a much nicer mommy when you come back.'

▶ Watch Ajahn Brahm tell it from 35:06 (to 35:55)

A reflection (in the spirit of Ajahn Brahm's talk)

A tired mother wanted to skip meditation, and her daughter wouldn't hear of it: you're a much nicer mummy when you come back. Children often notice our stress before we do. Rest and a quiet mind aren't selfish; they're a gift to everyone who has to live with us, and a kindness to yourself as well.

In brief (our summary)

A tired mother tells her children she will skip the meditation group; her daughter insists she go, because she is a much better mum afterwards.

Teaching point

One reason to meditate is that other people have to put up with you; rest makes us less difficult.

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Source & credit

Told by Ajahn Brahm in Dealing With Difficult People | Ajahn Brahm | 28 Nov 2008 · 2008-12-06 · ▶ watch from 35:06 to 35:55 · Buddhist Society of Western Australia

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