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Bare midriffs in a Melbourne winter

As told by Ajahn Brahm in Problems and Solutions | Ajahn Brahm | 30 Oct 2015

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The story — as told by Ajahn Brahm (verbatim captions)

and I always also remember the time I was in Melbourne once don't worry about Fashions you know just do what you want to do because I remember going to Melbourne during the winter time giving a series of talks there and going from one place to another looking through the window I saw there was a fashion of these halter tops you know these low slung jeans or skirts and just you know High um jumpers or whatever leaving the whole midriff you know about 6 Ines of bare flesh in the cold me Melbourne winter and I swear I saw a few girls it was blue those poor women they were suffering so much because of fashion what what do you do that for you attra attract a guy do you really need a guy you get freezing to get a guy there's other ways so in the end sort of you know live simply

▶ Watch Ajahn Brahm tell it from 31:42 (to 32:55)

A reflection (in the spirit of Ajahn Brahm's talk)

In a Melbourne winter, Ajahn Brahm saw young women in crop tops, bare midriffs turning blue, all for fashion. Why suffer like that? Chasing more never ends; there's always another promotion and never enough. Live simply and enjoy today. Visit your old mum now, not tomorrow.

In brief (our summary)

Giving talks in Melbourne in winter, Ajahn Brahm sees the fashion for halter tops and low-slung jeans leaving about six inches of bare midriff in the cold; he swears some girls' skin had turned blue. Suffering for fashion, he says, is crazy — especially if the point is only to attract a partner.

Teaching point

Fashion that makes you suffer is not worth the attention it buys.

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Told by Ajahn Brahm in Problems and Solutions | Ajahn Brahm | 30 Oct 2015 · 2015-10-30 · ▶ watch from 31:42 to 32:55 · Buddhist Society of Western Australia

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