Story · Ajahn Brahm
The nail that didn't hurt until someone said so
The story — as told by Ajahn Brahm (verbatim captions)
stepping on a nail - it went about two inches into my foot! It's a long way, a big 4 inch nail, it went right inside my foot! It didn't hurt at all! until somebody said "Wow that's terrible!!" and as soon as they said that it started to hurt
▶ Watch Ajahn Brahm tell it from 4:59 (to 5:18)
A reflection (in the spirit of Ajahn Brahm's talk)
On alms round, Ajahn Brahm stepped on a nail that went deep into his foot. It didn't hurt, until another monk cried that it looked terrible; then it hurt. Much of our pain comes from what we expect and add on. Be careful telling people how they should feel. Your words shape what they experience.
In brief (our summary)
On alms round in Thailand Ajahn Brahm steps on a nail that goes a couple of inches into his foot. It doesn't hurt — until the monk with him says, “Oh, that's terrible.” Then it starts hurting.
Teaching point
Be careful how we impose emotions on others by telling them how they should feel.
When this story may help
Themes
- pain
- perception
- emotions
- suggestion
Source & credit
Told by Ajahn Brahm in How to deal with chronic pain | Ajahn Brahm | 04-07-2014 · 2014-07-06 · ▶ watch from 4:59 to 5:18 · Buddhist Society of Western Australia
4 other tellings of this story
- I Don't Own My Past | by Ajahn Brahm | 03 May 2013 · 2013-05-05 · ▶ watch from 53:08 to 53:27 · Buddhist Society of Western Australia
- Confidence, Fear and Anxiety | Ajahn Brahm | 28 January 2022 · 2022-01-28 · ▶ watch from 44:10 to 45:00 · Buddhist Society of Western AustraliaJan 2022 telling: 4-inch nail right through the foot; audience gasps; 'acupuncture point' joke; hurt only after the companion said 'That's terrible.'
- Dhammapada First Line (Mind) | Ajahn Brahm | 24 Feb 2017 · 2017-02-24 · ▶ watch from 25:44 to 26:27 · Buddhist Society of Western AustraliaFeb 2017 telling: barefoot alms-round; rusty four-inch nail almost through foot; no pain until friend says 'that's terrible'.
- Guided Meditation | Ajahn Brahm | 17 April 2021 · 2021-04-17 · ▶ watch from 1:13:08 to 1:13:58 · Buddhist Society of Western AustraliaApr 2021: nail through foot no pain until companion says terrible — then hurts; lie kindly to stop shock.
Caption notes: Manual (volunteer) captions; occasional misspellings kept as is.
The narrative is Ajahn Brahm's own telling, quoted from the talk captions. The summary and reflection are Being Mindful Stories's editorial notes. Please credit the teacher and link the original talk. Markdown version