Story · Ajahn Brahm
Sundays church, Saturdays temple
The story — as told by Ajahn Brahm (verbatim captions)
this was actually you know my predecessor AJ and Jacob gave this wonderful piece of advice when he had a Thai girl married to an Italian Catholic and they asked and they did a wedding ceremony for them and then asked what should we do you know for our religious life and he gave this wonderful person a Catholic married to a Buddhist he said on Sundays you both go to church together on Saturdays you both come to the temple together
▶ Watch Ajahn Brahm tell it from 23:30 (to 24:09)
A reflection (in the spirit of Ajahn Brahm's talk)
Marrying a Thai Buddhist to an Italian Catholic, Ajahn Jagaro advised: Sundays you both go to church, Saturdays you both come to the temple. Neither had to convert; each would learn how the other thinks. Spend time in someone else's world. Understanding dissolves the mistrust that grows into blame and hatred.
In brief (our summary)
Ajahn Jagaro marries a Thai Buddhist woman to an Italian Catholic. Asked how they should practise, he says: Sundays you both go to church together; Saturdays you both come to the temple together — so each understands the other's faith.
Teaching point
Shared practice across difference dissolves mistrust better than conversion.
When this story may help
- interfaith marriage
Themes
Source & credit
Told by Ajahn Brahm in Hatred and how to overcome it | Ajahn Brahm | 17 Jun 2016 · 2016-06-17 · ▶ watch from 23:30 to 24:09 · Buddhist Society of Western Australia
2 other tellings of this story
- How to Resolve Conflicts Wisely | Ajahn Brahm | 3 November 2023 · 2023-11-04 · ▶ watch from 4:17 to 4:48 · Buddhist Society of Western AustraliaNov 2023 telling: interfaith couple; Ajahn Jagaro — Saturday temple together, Sunday church together.
- Learning How to Live Together | Ajahn Brahm | 2 February 2018 · 2018-02-02 · ▶ watch from 23:55 to 24:32 · Buddhist Society of Western AustraliaFeb 2018 telling: Thai Buddhist / Italian Catholic marriage — Saturday temple, Sunday church.
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