Stories for difficult marriage
3 Buddhist wisdom stories for difficult marriage from Buddhist teachers, each linked to the original talk.
- 'George, you stupid man'Story · Ajahn Brahm
In brief: A woman who came to the Perth centre always belittled her husband in public — 'George, come over here. George, you stupid man.' Ajahn Brahm felt sorry for George, bullied and…
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There's this lady who's to come here and she would always she would always just embarrass her husband every time they came here. And I think, "Sir, I don't somebody may remember." It was It's George, George, come over here. George, you stupid man. George, George. And I always felt so sorry for George. And he was intimidated, he was bullied, he was harassed. And eventually, she passed away. When she passed away, I asked George afterwards, "Oh, you must be so relieved." He says, "No, I miss her so much." It's amazing what we get attached to.
- Send her back — she might resurrectJoke · Ajahn Brahm
In brief: A man finally takes his difficult Christian wife to Israel; she dies there. Chaplain offers $500 local funeral vs $5000 to ship her home — he chooses shipping: someone…
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holy land with his wife I think I must have told I think I told that in the armadel group last Tuesday when it just shows you just know how experience and know what real suffering really is about this guy who went to his wife was a Christian and always wanted to go to know Israel to see the holy sites and like Buddhists go on pilgrimages to India know Christians and Jews they go on a pilgrimage to Israel so his wife was pestering him again and again and again she was a very difficult woman to live with and so she pested him again and again So eventually he took her over to Israel for the um uh for a holiday and when she was over there she died and so after she died the chaplain of the hospital which was treating her said well look we can do the funeral here in Israel for only $500 but to send her back to Australia it' be about $5,000 and we have to pay for the funeral expenses also what do you want and he said no I think we better send her back to Australia and the chap was quite surprised why are you wasting all that money he said oh cuz I heard a few years ago in this country somebody died and he resurrected after 3 days I can't take that chance my wife
- Seven years to change a violent husbandStory · Ajahn Brahm
In brief: About twenty years ago a woman thanks the monks for saving her life. For seven years she had come to the centre only to get away from a husband who beat her regularly — every…
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But another way is there was a lady who came here many years ago. I mentioned this story in the "Opening the Door of your Heart". Amazing lady, she came up to me once and said "I wanna thank you for saving our lives for all the talks given over the last several years have changed my life and my husband's life all around. Her story was that her husband was very abusive to her. Domestic abuse; this is about 25 years ago. And in those days, many women would just take in and they wouldn't go to the social services to get help. I don't know if there was that help around at the time anyway. So she told us she came to this centre over here not because she was a Buddhist just as a place she could escape to for a couple of hours. where she knew she won't be hit. Brilliant, she only told me about this at the very end. But she said what she heard here was this wonderful positive forgiveness. Not just forgiveness because that's not enough So the positive part of it was whenever her partner behaved appropriately, kindly, softly then she would just go out to him give him hugs and kisses. Whenever he was abusive, I don't advice this at all She was an amazing lady. She would just take it. She said it took her seven years to turn that man totally around. She never gave any feedback to the abuse. She only gave feedback to the kindness. Little by little by not giving feedback to abuse, it just diminished. By giving positive feedback to the kindness - it grew