# Mummy, you're nicer after meditation

- Teacher: Ajahn Brahm
- Type: Story
- URL: https://beingmindfulstories.com/stories/brahm-nicer-mummy-after-meditation
- Themes: meditation, parenting, kindness, family
- Life situations: parenting stress, skipping practice

## Synopsis (editorial summary)

A tired Armadale Tuesday-night mother almost skips class until her six-year-old insists she go — because she is a much nicer mummy when she comes home from meditation.

## The story, as told by Ajahn Brahm (verbatim captions)

my child sent me my six-year-old mummy are you going to meditation tonight now I don't feel like it mummy you must go to meditation tonight no not tonight I'm too tired mummy go to meditation why darling because you're a much nicer mummy when you come home for meditation

## Teaching point

Even a child can see how stillness softens a parent.

## Reflection (in the spirit of Ajahn Brahm's talk)

Too tired for her Tuesday meditation class, a mother was urged to go by her six-year-old: you're a much nicer mummy when you come home. Another woman's boss asked what drug the retreat had given her. Children and bosses notice. A calmer mind finds less fault, and everyone around you benefits.

## Source

- [Finding fault or finding beauty | by Ajahn Brahm | 5 June 2015](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4K8ejLdmOK8) (Buddhist Society of Western Australia) — watch from 26:44 to 27:07: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4K8ejLdmOK8&t=1604s

Other tellings of this story:

- [Guided Meditation | Ajahn Brahm | 29 April 2023](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G2nL-f5sQAg) (Buddhist Society of Western Australia) — watch from 5:56 to 6:32: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G2nL-f5sQAg&t=356s
- [Laugh with Ajahn Brahm - Armadale Meditation Group | Ajahn Brahm | 9 November 2021](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=td6FfYaZfYw) (Buddhist Society of Western Australia) — watch from 25:40 to 26:25: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=td6FfYaZfYw&t=1540s
- [Guided Meditation | Ajahn Brahm | 20 June 2020](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RLfl3MieumE) (Buddhist Society of Western Australia) — watch from 1:05:48 to 1:06:09: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RLfl3MieumE&t=3948s
- [Guided Meditation | Ajahn Brahm | 21 January 2023](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N0GRfzfop20) (Buddhist Society of Western Australia) — watch from 1:15:40 to 1:16:04: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N0GRfzfop20&t=4540s
- [Emboldening the Mind with Fizz & Sparkle (5/14) | Ajahn Brahm & Venerable Canda | 8 December 2021](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GxK-FsOhmOE) (Buddhist Society of Western Australia) — watch from 4:50 to 5:49: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GxK-FsOhmOE&t=290s